How to Beat the Holiday Blues

Guest Contributor DeAna Jo Vivian (LPC, NCC). She serves as one of the overseers for The Outlet Community Church.

The holidays only come once a year and only last for a few weeks. If you follow these tips, you might just find this year to be more joyful and less stressed!

Cling to Life—Jesus is the way the truth and the LIFE! 

We have a Savior who has been touched by everything we have been touched by— so go boldly to the throne. (John 14:6)

Keep your healthy routine—don’t make quick decisions.

The holiday isn’t the time to start something new. With change comes the potential for failure and failure can lead to the “blues”.  (Ecclesiastes 3:1)

Remind yourself “There is no ‘perfect’ holiday and there is no ‘wrong way or right way’ to celebrate the holiday”.

Get rid of the stress and create or keep traditions that agree with your value system. (Philippians 4:6)

Who values you?  Everyone wants to be loved, understood, and valued. 

There are friends and family who love, understand, and value you. Surround yourself with activities, visits, and phone calls that support your self-worth. (Proverbs 17:17)

“Name it and step away” from guilt.

Even if you had a hand to play in the reason you feel blue around the holidays, feeling guilty only magnifies the problem. Acknowledge your part, forgive yourself, and choose to do something different going forth. (Ephesians 1:7)

Being alone is a choice.

You may not have friends or family to spend the holiday with, but you can volunteer, or adopt a family.  (Genesis 2:18a)

Remain present and in the moment: 

Yesterday is a canceled check, tomorrow is a promissory note, and today is cash money.  You can only influence or change what is happening now!  (Matthew 6:34)

Just say “no”.

No is a complete sentence. It’s OK to say no when you’re asked to do more than you can. It’s fine to say no to some invitations and fine to say no to those asking for favors. Remember, this is your holiday too! Colossians 4:6

Ask for help—you don’t have to do everything.

Friends and family will help if you ask.  Hire a teen to help you clean, prepare, or cook a meal. Friends and family can run errands or even take an assignment that is usually yours.  Stop getting upset because people treat you like Wonder Woman if you are constantly presenting yourself as such! (Galatians 6:2)

Be good to yourself. 

If you’re feeling blue, pamper yourself. Do what feels morally good, and what recreates life in you. It’s ok to be a little self-centered.  You can be there for yourself just like you try to be there for everyone else.

Avoid “self-medicating”. — drinking, smoking, spending money, overeating, and jump-starting your “cuffing” season. 

Masking your feelings only leads to bigger problems and bluer “blues.”

The holidays only come once a year and only last for a few weeks. If you follow these tips, you might just find this year to be more joyful and less stressed!

If you are struggling and you find these tips are insufficient, seek a professional for help.  There is no shame in it. Jesus needed help carrying His cross.

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